athaire said:Been running into some issues with girls that have offered BBFS to clients and/or rumors of such.......the sentiment here in Vic among most of the industry is to avoid these providers. What are things like in the Ont. scene with regard to such things?
4Times said:athaire said:Been running into some issues with girls that have offered BBFS to clients and/or rumors of such.......the sentiment here in Vic among most of the industry is to avoid these providers. What are things like in the Ont. scene with regard to such things?
The answer Athaire is no. It is not cool or accepted here. We share these women and we could share problems as well. Toronto is far ahead of Victoria in terms of the availability of PSE service but nobody wants to be involved with a woman who abandons that minimum standard of safety.
Agreed.....I feel it is the responsibility of the pooner to say no.Shaft said:iceman_dci said:I've read on another site about discussions regarding having an ongoing relationship with an SP you've been visiting for years and that relationship turns the corner to feelings but still remaining business-like and the the SP going ahead with BBFS..... I don't know where the line is drawn with that respect.
As most of us do, we try to take precautions when we first meet a potential future SO, but sooner of later that precaution turns to trust and we no longer feel we have to use protection...is this the same as seeing your favourite SP? What if she is still seeing clients? Even if she's not seeing anymore clients...? When you sleep with someone, you are sleeping with everyone they have. My ex-wife of 12 years and I practised unprotected sex after 1 month, and it was only after both of us were tested that we decided to do so. Am I responsible? Hell no. There have been many times where I have had unprotected sex with ladies I've met. Did I know their sexual history? It's hard to ask for a resume and references when you're in a situation where your litlte head is thinking for the big head; but the decision was mutual.
The truth of the matter is, you have to feel some responsibility not only yourself, but to others as well. Relationships flourish, some don't. We all move on. After every relationship ended with me, I got tested. Because I hobby, I get tested regularly. Truth is, some girls are desparate for the quick buck and will do BBFS for the quick reward either to support a drug habit or to pay the rent or whatever reasoning they have; foresight may not be their forte, but as responsible hobbyist, we should walk away from such offers and maybe even add a few supporting words to the lady and tell her the dangers and the impact of such a quick decision to not only themselves, but their family and loved ones.
Just my .02
There is actually a lot of reality therapy and insight in this.
jalbertson said:In my experience,
30% ask which SPs give BBFS so they can visit them
30% ask which SPs give BBFS so they can avoid them
30% ask which SPs give BBFS so they pretend to avoid them
10% ask, "what's BBFS?"
HOF said:No glove, no love!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aSLeUTpwFjI No Sex in the champagne room! Got it!